All struggles are based on a lack of connection, either with others or with ourselves.
This course is a unique approach to relationships with yourself and others. It dramatically changes your ability to accomplish what you want in your life with ease and joy. It will help you examine the way that you show up at work and in your personal life, all through training a mindset that leads to more connection and more satisfying relationships.
The Art of Accomplishment Connection Course was created and is led by Joe Hudson, a former venture capitalist, philanthropist, consultant, and today, a teacher and executive coach.
My first principle, in life and in the Art of Accomplishment, is Connection Connection Connection. And like all my principles it developed slowly, through iteration and experimentation.
The first thing these experiments showed was that whenever I was struggling with anything, I was also out of connection.
If I was struggling with my marriage I wasn’t in connection with my wife. If I was struggling with sales I had lost connection with my customer. If there was office politics I had lost connection with my team. If I was struggling with bad habits I’d lost connection with myself.
Through continued experiments and iterations, it slowly dawned on me: The first step of solving any problem was to get back into connection. The more I stayed in connection, the less struggling I did.
This isn’t to say that all problems were caused by a lack of connection. Sometimes problems were caused by an incident outside our control. But the struggling that I did around the problem always seemed to stem from me stepping out of connection. And often it was the struggling that caused the next problems.
The thing about struggling is that it is a tremendous waste of effort. It is wildly inefficient, and not enjoyable at all.
More iterative experiments followed. Remarkably, the less I struggled, the more I could get done. It was more enjoyable to do, and I accomplished more. And what I accomplished was more in line with my truth.
This is why the first principle is Connection Connection Connection. We start from connection. We get back into connection. We end in connection.
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*Formerly VIEW workshop
The Connection Course uses a “cohort of two” learning format that combines the power of cohort-based learning with the flexibility of a self-paced course.
We made it easy to do, although the sessions can be intense. This combination of ease and intensity is the only way we could teach so much in so little time.
Unlike esoteric workshops offered only to elite executives, this course empowers anyone to create authentic connections, be more effective, and foster life-changing self-discovery and empowerment.
The course was developed from 20 years of research into dozens of spiritual traditions and psychological frameworks, backed by the findings of present neurological research. This was distilled into a series of exercises that people could use to radically and rapidly transform their relationships.
Can I join your workshop as an individual or do I need to have a partner? I don’t have a partner yet.
You need to enroll in the course with a partner. If you don’t have a partner, we can find one in a nearby time zone for you. Just click the “I don’t have a partner” button on the checkout page, and give us your email address and timezone.
I am considering doing the Connection Course again with a different partner. How does that work?
There are a few ways:
- One way is to choose someone you’d like to partner with, tell them about the Connection Course, and have them enroll, listing you as their partner.
- Another way is to make a posting in the forum asking if there’s anyone who would like to run through the material again, this time with you. If you do it this way you can outline your parameters a bit more than a random pairing.
- You can also send a request email to email@example.com asking to pair you up with a new enrollee in the course (include your time zone).
My partner and I are living in the same place. Do we have to do it over Zoom?
Heavens no! You can do the partner sessions in-person, face-to-face. Just set up two upright chairs facing each other, and put a screen showing the video guidance where both of you can see it.
What makes it cost so much?
People spend $300 on ways that allow them to feel connected to their friends and family all the time, whether that’s a plane ticket, or an expensive dinner, or a gift for a friend. So we think $300 is a fine price to pay. It’s a very reasonable price to not only become more connected to someone than you have ever experienced but also to learn how to do that with anybody in your life. And if people aren’t willing to pay the price of a plane ticket to do this work it’s an indication that they’re not serious enough; that they don’t have the skin in the game to get the job done.
If it only costs $300, why would I believe it’s effective?
The truth is that the information that we share here is available in lots of other places and you can potentially get all of it for free. The exercises have come from years of iteration, and we have put this course together in a way that it can get to as many people as possible. We’re serious about getting the work out there. We’re not trying to make a ton of money on this. The cost that we’re trying to cover is the production value of a well-produced, high-quality course.
What guarantee do you offer?
Imagine you had to pay some money to climb to the top of the mountain, and you knew that when you got to the top of the mountain, you would feel excited and accomplished. You would have vistas. You would be at peace.
Now imagine that every step of the way you knew that you could get your money back if all you did was quit and stopped climbing to the top of the mountain. That policy would make it harder for you to get to the top of the mountain rather than easier to get to the top of the mountain.
It’s for that reason we don’t have a money-back guarantee. What we’re interested in is not selling a ticket. We’re interested in helping people who want to do the work and get to the top of the mountain.
How is AOA similar and different from coaching techniques?
Coaching is often about trying to get somebody somewhere, or add value to their life, whereas AOA is about being on a discovery journey together. It’s about deeply understanding that the person you’re talking to has all the wisdom they need to take the right next step in their life. It is about connection, not fixing.
What if I don’t consider myself a deeply emotional person?
There is no moment when you’re awake that you’re not having an emotion. There is no human that has that experience. If you don’t consider yourself a deeply emotional person, it’s not that you don’t have emotions but that you’re unaware of the emotions that you’re having. Either way, the course is effective, whether you come in with an awareness of your emotions or not.
How will this help me if I’m not a “deep relationship” kind of person?
It won’t unless you WANT to be a deep relationship kind of person.
When you consider that this course is just as much about having a deep relationship with yourself as with others, you can ask the question: “What is it about me that makes me want to avoid deep relationships with myself?”
What made you set it up to be done in pairs?
There are a handful of reasons. This course is about learning connection. If you’re learning alone, you’re not really learning connection.
Second, the course actively creates connection with people. Because of this, you get to feel the results of the work instead of just learning a tool.
Third, patterns that don’t serve us which we learned in a relationship are easiest to unlearn inside of a relationship.
Finally, you get to work on current issues that are happening for you, so you get to see how the tools work in changing your life.
I have a lot of issues; what would make me focus on connection first?
Take a moment to ask yourself: “What are the things that take up time and energy, and limit my ability to accomplish what I want?”
How many of your answers had to do with your interactions with another person?
- How you are going to present yourself….
- What do people think of you…
- Who is judging you…
- How you will get someone to do something…
- Whether someone loves you….
Even the painful thoughts that don’t appear to be about relationships might be about them if you look a little deeper:
- I should lose weight……. so people don’t judge me.
- I need to work harder……. so I don’t disappoint my business partner.
- I need money…….so I do not have to depend on others.
If relationships are at the root of all of your painful thoughts, and connection is the key to achieving success in relationships, what makes you not learn about connection?
Working through conflict in a healthy and constructive way is one of the potent skills you will learn in the course.
What makes you think I can’t solve this on my own?
We do believe you can solve it on your own. In fact, we believe this is the only way you can solve it. This course is a tool available to you, if you want to use it,
What if I don’t have the discipline required? I’m scared I won’t finish the course.
What makes you think that you won’t have the discipline? What makes you have that thought and not the thought, “I’m scared I won’t have the discipline to finish this video game,” or “I’m scared I won’t have the discipline to finish this Star Wars movie?”
We’ve designed the course so that it’s as easy as pressing play. You just have to commit to five slots of time that’s equivalent to watching 5 movies. You press play, and then you play the game that’s in front of you. We’ve designed it so that you don’t need to have discipline. All you have to do is show up.
What if I take this course and parts of my life fall apart?
That does tend to happen. If there’s something making you unhappy, it needs to fall apart if you want to get to happiness.
If there’s a part of your life that is disconnected, and you want to get into connection, and something has to fall apart for that to happen, the question is: are you going to resist it, or embrace it?
If you resist it, it’ll be painful and hard, and if you embrace it, you’ll hardly notice the change. You’ll hardly notice that the thing left.
What if this course takes more effort than I’m willing to commit to?
The first thing to look at is why you equate effort with transformation.
You’ve probably transformed your life in 20 different ways over the last year — whether that’s drinking more coffee or taking less showers — and it hasn’t required any effort. The idea that transformation requires effort is a limiting belief that makes changing a chore or an obligation. This could be why you haven’t had the change that you’ve been craving.
What happens when you see the change as enjoyable and fun? This course is designed to be enjoyable and fun as one way of helping people see through the idea that effort is required to transform.
But make no mistake: the course is challenging. It just doesn’t require effort.
Altogether, this is going to take me a lot of time. How do I know it’s well spent?
What makes you consider time a factor when you’re thinking about taking this course, yet not when you go to watch a movie or scroll Facebook?
It takes a lot of time to have friends, it takes a lot of time to be married, it takes a lot of time to have kids, and it takes a lot of time to fly to somebody’s wedding.
What is it that makes you think about the course in terms of time, and those things above not in terms of time?
When people think that they don’t have enough time, it’s usually not actually about the time that they have. It’s anxiety they feel around their obligations and their sense of connection with themselves and others.
When you feel deeply connected, your anxiety and your sense of obligation decrease, and you get the sense that you have much more time. It’s like when Richard Branson said that the best time management skill he has is exercise. In the same way, the best time management skill we’ve found is being in connection.
Connection can save you weeks getting a better product for your customer. It can save you years in business, years navigating conflicts in your family, and years worrying about your kids. It can save you decades in trying to find happiness, all through connection
The investment seems worth it but I don’t have enough money,
It’s important to us that you have an investment in the work that inspires your commitment and focus.
That said; we’re happy to meet you where you actually are. If you’d like to apply for a scholarship please write us a letter about your situation and your commitment to doing the work.
However, if you have a poverty mentality and are scared to invest money in yourself, then please don’t bother writing us the letter.
I’m afraid that I’m going to get too weird for the people in my life.
This course is all about becoming who you are. What would make you build a life around people who think you are too weird? Wouldn’t you rather find a community of people who appreciate you for who you are?
Some people will think you’re weird – that’s unavoidable. But what if they didn’t judge you for that? And what if you got to see the people in your life get weird too?
There’s no doubt that people will judge you for what you learn in this course. Just like there’s no doubt that people are judging you for the things you do now.
One thing we have not seen is people who do the course getting judged more. If anything they get judged less because people feel connected with them. We tend to judge people when we feel scared and disconnected.
All this connection stuff is great for people who are social organizers and managers, but I’m an individual contributor. How is this helpful for me?
The people who are going to give you opportunities, help you accomplish your goals, or work with you to get a job done: all of them are people. The friends and family that you go home to, your kids or partner, they’re all people. Being in connection with these people is helpful no matter what your role is.
How is this not just self-indulgent? I already spend too much time on spa treatments.
It’s said that the most compassionate act that you can give to another person is your own self-awareness because you’ll cause them less pain. In this way, learning how to deeply connect with yourself and others is the opposite of self-indulgent.
Connection can’t happen unless you’re yourself, which means you have to be yourself despite the consequences. And connection can’t happen with another unless you are generous with your time, attention and love.
Humility and generosity aren’t about caring for yourself less. It’s about caring less about how people see you and what they can do for you.
I agree that healing is a compassionate act for others, but what if I’m unhealable?
As long as you have that question, you’re probably right.
The truth is that everything on the planet evolves and transforms. Every living thing on the planet has a natural tendency to transform and heal. The only thing that has the power to stop that is a limiting thought — a limiting thought that can only be birthed out of a lack of connection.
If you truly believe this about yourself, despite the evidence that all living things have a natural tendency to transform, then the most likely scenario is that you have an incredibly abusive voice in your head, one that has isolated you from not only yourself but your friend group.
And though you may think that the cause of it is you, the actual cause of it is the disconnection that’s been created by the negative voice in your head. If you can’t see that, then you can’t see through the belief.
The good news is that there are tools in this course to address exactly this.
Though if you can’t be open to the idea that change is possible for you, don’t waste your time and money.
How can I get the best audio experience?
TLDR, wear headphones.
When you use your laptop speaker, your mic is constantly switched on and off so as not to pick up the speaker’s sound. This makes it harder for your partner to hear the nuances of what you’re saying. When you wear headphones you give Zoom’s audio processing a much easier job, and your partner gets a far better audio experience.
How can I get the best video experience?
(1) Be sure you have a good internet connection
(2) Be sure both checkboxes are checked in the lower left of the Zoom screen sharing window (the point where you select which window you’re going to share).
How do I optimize my Zoom appearance for my partner?
We recommend setting up your Zoom as follows:
- Choose a quiet place where you can focus and carry out the exercises freely, including speaking aloud freely
- Have the webcam at eye level
- Show your upper body so we can see your body language
- Lighting – take care to not have too strong light coming from one side, and eliminate any bright lights behind you (backlit).
- Block off the time and let people know you’re doing the program so that nobody will interrupts you
- Use two monitors – this allows more freedom of window placement within Zoom
- When making eye contact, look at your partner’s eyes, not the camera lens.
How is this different from all of the other approaches to communication that have been around for decades? E.g., Crucial Communications, Non-violent Communication, etc.
Most communication courses are all about a technique and focus on what to say or how to say it. The main focus of AOA is the state of mind. There is hardly any technique.
We choose this approach for two reasons. First, any communication technique can be hurtful or stop working if it is coming from strategy instead of authenticity. It is why most techniques have a high failure rate. The second reason is that freedom and peace come from a state of mind or a perspective — not from communicating correctly. This state of mind will positively affect far more than your communication.
What is the material based on?
The framework emerged through Joe Hudson’s work with top executives and companies in Silicon Valley and elsewhere, including organizations like Apple, Alphabet, SpaceX, HP, Lyte, and Hand in Hand Parenting among many others.
It was further developed and tested over more than 5 years of public workshops in multiple cities with more than 1,000 participants, and most recently, is currently used by more than 100 participants from among Joe’s clients.
Who is delivering the Connection Course?
The VIEW Group LLC developed and delivers the Connection Course.